Knowing Your Friends through Different Layers of Attachment

The meaning of the word “friend” varies with the conceptual description of an individual…and sometimes also, basing on his own experience. As we all know “experience is the best teacher”, a very over-used line but grudgingly, still a fact.

Friends can be defined through “layers” of feelings or attachment:

• New friend. You can call someone a friend even if he is just an acquaintance: I want you to meet my new friend.  This stage can move on into a deeper relationship or will remain in the “hi and hello” stage.
•  “Hi and hello” friend- this can be a newly-meet friend or an old acquaintance. The friendship didn’t prosper but still existing.
• An Ally. Others call someone a friend if he is not a foe: is he a friend or an enemy? This kind of friendship is a “freelancer”. 
• “Affinity” friend. There is an affection existing between two individuals. A rapport. This feeling is not measured with the length of time. There are persons who “clicked” even just newly acquainted; and there are “friends” who remain on the “hi and hello” stage even after years of knowing each other.
• Good friends- there are emotional ties existing between individuals. Trust and affection is starting to develop.
• Best friends/special friends- they say that you only have one best friend (that’s why there is that superlative “best” which means the “most”); however, there are times when some things needed to be said to one person and can’t be told to another even those different persons are both very close to your heart. It does liken to some personal things of a woman (make-ups, etc.) each is different and has its own particular usage; all are important but each has its own specific role, same as in individuals. So, you can have as many best friends as you can, depending on your degree of needs or depending on how many special friends you have keep through the years.

Friendship can be found and developed even in a distance, especially nowadays wherein the modern technology bridges the gaps between places...and between people even of different races. A person can have “instant friends” though websites. Nowadays, being old is not a hindrance in learning and adapting to the “internet age” although of course, older people find it harder...to “start”. Upon learning the basics, they just content themselves to the simple  and uncomplicated knowledge offered by the “new world” (emails, chat, simple games, and research). The important thing is, they can communicate with friends and loved ones.

Not straying away from the main topic which is "friend and its layers of emotional ties", another kind of friend or friendship exists. Although it’s not between individuals, there is also an emotional attachment present in this kind of “friendship”. As dog is a man’s best friend before, PC and/or cell phones are the modern best friends of today’s civilization. These things are like body part’s extensions which are very important to one’s existence and vital contemporary means for nurturing relationships (communications)… like in friendship and love.

Making a story with a pen

I was thinking of a new subject to write and while at it, I keep on browsing FB and scan its updates. One of the interesting news I read was about the “special accomplishment” of a very close friend of mine. I was not surprised by her success because I have seen her works. The first time I saw those pictures, I really was captivated. This very talented young lady can capture the beauty of a thing and transfer it in a canvass or on anything she loves to paint or draw into. Yes, if a poet or storyteller can use words to paint something, this young woman can make a story by her pen or pencil or charcoal…and the modern technology makes her better, if not the best  in her field of Arts.

Congratulations cute! More success...more drawings.

a few days of going and looking back...a freshener

Sometimes, we just don't realize that we need some breather...a different scenario for our thoughts, and also for our sights. A few days of different environment refreshes mindsets and physiological perspectives...a taste of forgotten memories in a certain place and moments.
 
A few days, a few hours...an eternity of thoughts and reminiscences. So many people, strangers...a few friends but lasting ones...different foods for the same palates...different languages for the same tongues. I missed the things i didn't know i miss...A tinge of wanting, a silent whisper of the heart for the past emotions...I thought i forgot things that were a "has been"...but now, they're my visitors again.


For the time being, i'll open my heart, my mind, my memory. Like a PC, i'll save it for later. For now, i'll go back even just for a while...and then tomorrow, i'll face reality again.

Family week: It's like a whirlwind

Has anyone experienced traveling like this in one day? From the house, we rode a tricycle going to the seaport; then riding a fast craft to another port; tricycle to the terminal of GT liner (v-hire before) which will only be until their own terminal; taxi to the airport; plane to another airport; then taxi to the bus terminal; 3 hours bus to another terminal; then, taxi to the place you're staying for days before coming back to the place of origin, going through the same process of traveling...again. Hah! is it worth it? yes, if it means (between the intervals of traveling) you have met and seen your family again whom you haven't...for years.

Every minute counts...every day is priceless...every hardship is worth it because you once again created a memory; bonded a stronger tie with your loved ones; and added some pages for your travel experience and stories book.These all  made you wiser and more knowledgeable...despite of the tiredness and exhaustion, both physical and emotional...the twin effect of every enriching experience.

Today's not my day...so it seems

I don't feel well...I feel bad. I can't remember what upsets my stomach. I'm trying to ignore the pains by watching TV but even my favorite movie can't make me forget the 'shooting pains". I even search  the internet about pains and aches...and treatments.

To add up to my miseries, one of my folders in yahoo was gone. Some of my files are saved there. I don't know what's happening. One of my friends asked me about the message I've sent to her yesterday, I said I didn't send any. She then forwarded the message and when I tried to open, the anti-virus appeared and "warned". I changed my password right away.

Hah! I'm really annoyed. It's not my day. Maybe I'll make it an early night and hope that my dreams are good enough to console my sub-conscious; make me feel happy; and put a smile on my face when i wake up on the morrow (and hope that my stomach will settle down  too). Goodnight!